Psyduction

Bratty sister mode

  • Bratty sister mode is where - as you'd expect - you treat her as if she's your little bratty sister. 
  • Call her out on whining, call her spoilt if she has lots of things and tease her on her mannerisms etc. 
  • In this mode your communicating powerful signals of how you are the dominant presence as well as the protector.
  • The main advantage is the tension it will relieve between you and her. 
  • Another advantage is that you can quickly show your value while making her rethink hers.

Dumb Little Man

  1. Follow Your Curiosity. "I have no special talent. I am only passionately curious."
  2. Perseverance is Priceless. "It's not that I'm so smart; it's just that I stay with problems longer."
  3. Focus on the Present. "Any man who can drive safely while kissing a pretty girl is simply not giving the kiss the attention it deserves."
  4. The Imagination is Powerful. "Imagination is everything. It is the preview of life's coming attractions. Imagination is more important than knowledge."
  5. Make Mistakes. "A person who never made a mistake never tried anything new."
  6. Live in the Moment. "I never think of the future - it comes soon enough."
  7. Create Value. "Strive not to be a success, but rather to be of value."
  8. Don't Expect Different Results. "Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results."
  9. Knowledge Comes From Experience. "Information is not knowledge. The only source of knowledge is experience."
  10. Learn the Rules and Then Play Better. "You have to learn the rules of the game. And then you have to play better than anyone else."

Life Hack

  1. Embrace Your Fear. Recognize that you will be distracted sometimes and accept those distractions as opportunities to improve.
  2. Plan For Interruptions. Effective planning is a cornerstone of the productive lifestyle. Plan extra time in to satisfy distractions.
  3. Delegate And Postpone. Once you've identified an interruption as something that needs attention, try to postpone your involvement.
  4. Attack Procrastination. The simplest way to attack procrastination is to synthesize urgency with truncated deadlines. If it normally takes you 3 hours to do something, hit the bathroom, grab a glass of water, set a timer for 90 minutes, and tear into your work! 
  5. Split Your Day Into Targets. Distractions are most dangerous to the person working without short-term goals. You can keep yourself out of the danger zone by setting targets throughout your day. 
  6. Limit Inputs. The more you limit channels people can use to distract you, the less likely it is that you'll be distracted. 
  7. Batch Outputs. Responding to emails in batches and scheduling a block of time to make phone calls etc
  8. Communicate Your Schedule To Others. When it comes to managing people-based distractions, communication is key. Need to finish a project? Let the people in your work group know that you'll be off-limits until a certain time. 
  9. Begin With The Main Point. When you encounter a distraction, get to the heart of it immediately.

Pick The Brain

  • Before you open another door, follow this three-step process: Stop. Pause. Enter. It might take an extra 10 seconds, but doing this will help you become more conscious of your objectives and help you connect with your spouse, children, boss, mother-in-law, or whomever.
  • If you're like me, you have a thousand things you're thinking about and commitments you're juggling. You could say I'm a little future-focused as well. 
  • According to Philip Zimbardo, future oriented folks make more money, are more hopeful, make the best of failure, and simply, get the job done. But, future-focused folks sacrifice family, friends, and sex for success. Apparently we are so driven for a better future, we fail to recognize and appreciate the present. And that's where the doorknob principle comes in.
  • If you find yourself focused on the past or the future and want to "live in the moment" a little more, the next time you come home, don't just automatically open the door.
  • Focus on who is on the other side of the door. It is your spouse? Your children? Whoever is on the other side of that door is probably one of the most important people in your life. Think about what they mean to you. With your heard cleared, open the door and enter. Make it a point to properly greet whoever is inside.

Dumb Little Man

  1. It's conceivable. If you can think it, you can likely achieve it.
  2. It has to be believable. It only takes one or two negative people to put doubt in your mind. Learn to replace these lies with the truth. The truth tells you that you are worthy to have whatever you conceive. 
  3. It must be achievable. Successful goal setting is about achievement. The goals you set are intended to be achieved. 
  4. It must be measurable. Goals need to be specific and measurable so you can gauge your progress and know when a goal has been met. 
  5. It must be stated with no alternatives. When setting a goal, it must be stated with a firm "all-or-nothing" way of thinking. 
  6. It must be something you want to do. If you have passion for a goal then you are more likely to accomplish it.