1. Grin and bear it. Sometimes there will be times when your energy levels are off or something else happens in your life forcing you to put your dreams on hold for a just a bit.
2. Take a time-out. You never know when the idea you need to bridge the gap between your current reality and your dreams will be found. But sometimes you need to give yourself the space to find it.
3. Assess whether your current plans are realistic. Maybe your dreams aren't coming true by the deadlines you set because your deadlines were unrealistic to begin with.
4. Get support.
5. Play a game called "15 Ways..." This is a little game I like to play whenever I get stuck on how to break through barriers in achieving goals. Grab a sheet of paper and brainstorm 15 ways you can overcome whatever obstacle is standing in between you and your goals. 
6. Pick a hero. Who in your mind is a noteworthy person you would like to emulate in life?  Tack a picture of them on your wall.  
7. Go out and execute every day. If you're done with your time out, then commit to doing one thing for your dreams everyday, no matter how small it is.

1. Schedule regular social activities. 
2. Follow a fitness plan. Apart from all the physical benefits of exercise, you'll enjoy the mental satisfaction of knowing that you're taking good care of yourself again.
3. Pursue a hobby. Pick a hobby that has little or nothing to do with what you spend most of your week doing and pursue it with passion!
4. Volunteer. Nothing brightens the soul or warms the senses like giving to another for no reason other than to give.
5. Write a manifesto. Have you forgotten what you want out of life?
6. Ask for help. Whether your struggle is with a particular part of a project or with something general, like time management, asking for help will get you to a solution faster than you could ever hope to alone. 
7. Make others laugh. Humor keeps us sane even through the most stressful of circumstances.
8. Make an escape list. An "escape list" is a list of everything you'd need to do in order to escape a situation that's driving you nuts. 
9. Embrace a morning ritual. Set your alarm a few minutes earlier than usual and spend the "extra" time sitting in a sunny spot in your living room with a cup of coffee and a good book.
10. Stop making excuses. The fix? Accept responsibility for your part of the problems that plague you. 
11. Be accountable. Accountability is something we're all familiar with but rarely put into useful practice. You can use accountability to drive your personal development and avoid burnout.

1. Give out compliments that you mean. 
2. Speak and act with honesty. 
3. Listen to others. 
4. Help illustrate your points with visual aids. 
5. Teach a class.
6. Get involved in community art projects. 
7. Mentor a child or student. 
8. Volunteer with local organizations. 
9. Lead a group on a travel expedition. 
10. Donate money to charity. 
11. Help the spread of community health clinics. 
12. Take the time to talk to strangers. 
13. Start a non-profit. 
14. Travel abroad and make new friends.
15. Reach out to friends and relatives at a distance.
16. Be aware of body language. Your body language sends a strong message to others, so be aware if you have your arms folded across your chest while you talk that you are shutting others out, for example.
17. Be sincere.
18. Nurture talent in others. 
19. Go out and support local musicians. 
20. Give thoughtful gifts. 
21. Join a community farm or grocery coop. 
22. Volunteer in schools. 
23. Stay in touch with local politics. 
24. Throw dinner parties with a mixed range of guests. 
25. Smile more often. 
26. Use public transportation. 
27. Organize recycling projects.
28. Run a benefit event.
29. Project positivity and eliminate negative thoughts. 
30. Join a book group or club. 
31. Start or join a language exchange program. 
32. Lead team-building exercises at work. 
33. Encourage social activities. 
34. Initiate physical contact. In this society in particular, there is a hesitance to touch one another. By simply placing a hand on someone's shoulder, you are helping to reconnect with that person.
35. Tell your loved ones how you feel about them. 
36. Make sure the atmosphere at work is a democratic one.
37. Nod your head when someone is making a point. 
38. Help foster creativity.
39. Run meetings with an open, discussion oriented atmosphere. 
40. Have suggestions ready for those who need advice.
41. Take walks to new areas of town.
42. Spend time planting trees in the community. 
43. Set up a food or blanket drive. This helps others in the community and empowers the other volunteers by letting them see they can make a difference.
44. Learn inspiring quotes that can be doled out. 
45. Learn new listening techniques. 
46. Study psychology.
47. Give a helping hand.
48. Give encouragement instead of criticism.
49. Take time for yourself to help others.
50. Learn intervention techniques. In the event that someone you know is struggling with addiction, this is a way to help them get over it and empower themselves to get back on track.

1. Find contentment in your current life. – Much of the reason we are unable to find adequate rest is because we are under the constant impression that our lives can and should be better than they are today.
2. Plan your rest. Rest will come only from intentional planning and planning rest will come only if it is truly desired.
3. Take responsibility for your life. You are not a victim of your time demands. You are the creator and acceptor of them.
4. Embrace simplicity. Embrace a lifestyle that focuses on your values, not your possessions.
5. Include your family. It is much easier to practice the discipline of concentrated rest if your family is practicing it too.
6. Live within your income. A debtor is a slave to his creditor. It is difficult to find rest for your mind when you are deep in debt.
7. Realize the shallow nature of a results-oriented culture. If you live in a results-oriented culture where productivity alone is championed on every corner, rest is counter-cultural.

1. Discover why you were created. Everything created solves a problem. You were created to solve a problem, and your success in life is dependent on your ability to find that problem and solve it.
2. Commit to be a Success. Success begins with a decision.
3. Have Faith in Your Possibilities. If you don't believe you're going to succeed, then ...you're probably right. Faith in your possibilities is what gives you the strength to do the impossible.
4. Keep Your Life in Balance. What good is it to be wealthy and have no one to share your wealth with? 
5. Help Others. To have "small" success, help a small number of people. To have great success, you must help a great number of people. Your success is dependent on your ability to help others.  

Bratty sister mode

• Bratty sister mode is where - as you'd expect - you treat her as if she's your little bratty sister. 
• Call her out on whining, call her spoilt if she has lots of things and tease her on her mannerisms etc. 
• In this mode your communicating powerful signals of how you are the dominant presence as well as the protector.
• The main advantage is the tension it will relieve between you and her. 
• Another advantage is that you can quickly show your value while making her rethink hers.

1. Follow Your Curiosity. "I have no special talent. I am only passionately curious."
2. Perseverance is Priceless. "It's not that I'm so smart; it's just that I stay with problems longer."
3. Focus on the Present. "Any man who can drive safely while kissing a pretty girl is simply not giving the kiss the attention it deserves."
4. The Imagination is Powerful. "Imagination is everything. It is the preview of life's coming attractions. Imagination is more important than knowledge."
5. Make Mistakes. "A person who never made a mistake never tried anything new."
6. Live in the Moment. "I never think of the future - it comes soon enough."
7. Create Value. "Strive not to be a success, but rather to be of value."
8. Don't Expect Different Results. "Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results."
9. Knowledge Comes From Experience. "Information is not knowledge. The only source of knowledge is experience."
10. Learn the Rules and Then Play Better. "You have to learn the rules of the game. And then you have to play better than anyone else."

1. Embrace Your Fear. Recognize that you will be distracted sometimes and accept those distractions as opportunities to improve.
2. Plan For Interruptions. Effective planning is a cornerstone of the productive lifestyle. Plan extra time in to satisfy distractions.
3. Delegate And Postpone. Once you've identified an interruption as something that needs attention, try to postpone your involvement.
4. Attack Procrastination. The simplest way to attack procrastination is to synthesize urgency with truncated deadlines. If it normally takes you 3 hours to do something, hit the bathroom, grab a glass of water, set a timer for 90 minutes, and tear into your work! 
5. Split Your Day Into Targets. Distractions are most dangerous to the person working without short-term goals. You can keep yourself out of the danger zone by setting targets throughout your day. 
6. Limit Inputs. The more you limit channels people can use to distract you, the less likely it is that you'll be distracted. 
7. Batch Outputs. Responding to emails in batches and scheduling a block of time to make phone calls etc
8. Communicate Your Schedule To Others. When it comes to managing people-based distractions, communication is key. Need to finish a project? Let the people in your work group know that you'll be off-limits until a certain time. 
9. Begin With The Main Point. When you encounter a distraction, get to the heart of it immediately.

• Before you open another door, follow this three-step process: Stop. Pause. Enter. It might take an extra 10 seconds, but doing this will help you become more conscious of your objectives and help you connect with your spouse, children, boss, mother-in-law, or whomever.
• If you're like me, you have a thousand things you're thinking about and commitments you're juggling. You could say I'm a little future-focused as well. 
• According to Philip Zimbardo, future oriented folks make more money, are more hopeful, make the best of failure, and simply, get the job done. But, future-focused folks sacrifice family, friends, and sex for success. Apparently we are so driven for a better future, we fail to recognize and appreciate the present. And that's where the doorknob principle comes in.
• If you find yourself focused on the past or the future and want to "live in the moment" a little more, the next time you come home, don't just automatically open the door.
• Focus on who is on the other side of the door. It is your spouse? Your children? Whoever is on the other side of that door is probably one of the most important people in your life. Think about what they mean to you. With your heard cleared, open the door and enter. Make it a point to properly greet whoever is inside.

1. It's conceivable. If you can think it, you can likely achieve it.
2. It has to be believable. It only takes one or two negative people to put doubt in your mind. Learn to replace these lies with the truth. The truth tells you that you are worthy to have whatever you conceive. 
3. It must be achievable. Successful goal setting is about achievement. The goals you set are intended to be achieved. 
4. It must be measurable. Goals need to be specific and measurable so you can gauge your progress and know when a goal has been met. 
5. It must be stated with no alternatives. When setting a goal, it must be stated with a firm "all-or-nothing" way of thinking. 
6. It must be something you want to do. If you have passion for a goal then you are more likely to accomplish it. 

1. Limit your friends. Not real-life friends, but social network and blogging and forum friends. Not that these can't be good relationships, but having too many makes them meaningless.
2. Limit your feeds. Blog subscriptions, newsletters, other updates and news subscriptions and so on.
3. Limit your communication time. Going into your email inbox? Just give yourself 10 minutes to read, reply, delete, and get out.
4. Give up on news. Let go of the need to stay updated. Even if your job does depend on it, keep it limited.
5. Be brief. Write brief emails, tweets, updates, blog posts. With some exceptions, of course. But make brief your de facto.
6. Give your attention to the important. This is the crucial part: choose what you give your attention to, and do this choosing carefully. What is important to you?
7. Become conscious of your distractions. Once you've decided to focus your attention on the important, become more aware of distractions as they come up.
8. Surround yourself with the positive. If you want your life to be positive, let the positive have your attention. This applies to blogs, people, projects, and more.

If framing has such an impact in how we decide and solve problems, what is the "correct way" of framing a problem? How can we protect ourselves from our biases? Here are four ideas.

1. Try multiple different perspectives. Never accept the initial framing without at least some thought — whether it was formulated by you or by someone else. Try different perspectives and look for distortions in thinking. 
2. Make all-encompassing and neutral statements. To avoid the biases of posing your problem as losses or gains, state the problem in a neutral way — one that combines both positive and negative perspectives. 
3. Invert the situation. Take your problem, invert it and see how you feel about it.
4. Detach yourself from it. Acknowledge and express your emotions but don't let them cloud your vision.

1. Assess Your Life. The first step that you need to do is to take a look at your life. More often than not, people who are bored and unhappy do not really know the things that are beautiful and precious in their lives.
2. Set Goals. Set goals so that you have something to look forward to in the future.
3. Be More Positive. One sure way that can bring your motivation down is by thinking negatively. Positivity moves you forward.
4. Count Your Blessings. Envy is something that can really put anyone down.
5. Find a Hobby. Doing the same things over and over again can really make people bored.
6. Don't Be Afraid to Change. Lastly, do not be afraid to change. Simply trying a new route to the office or eating at a new restaurant can help perk up your otherwise boring life. 

1. Analogies and Metaphors. Whenever you learn a fact, ask yourself what the idea is similar to. You can learn abstract processes by creating metaphors for more common events.
2. Mental Pictures. Have you ever tried to visualize a mathematical formula? Instead of just memorizing rules, I created a mental picture of my hands scooping through the diagonals, adding and removing the numbers etc
3. Dig a Foundation. Do you ever get surprised how easy early subjects appear, once you advance in them. Advance above your level.
4. Become the Teacher. Try switching roles: how would you explain what you're learning to someone else?
5. Stop Taking Rigid Notes. Write down ideas in branches and connections. Add your own thoughts, diagrams and arrows linking ideas so you have a web of information.
6. Diagram. Remember when your teacher told you to stop doodling in class? Well recent research suggests that drawing can actually increase your concentration.
7. Pegging. Mental magicians actually use this tactic to memorize any number. The tactic is a bit complicated for a brief article, but the basic idea is to attach each digit to a specific consonant. So 1 = s, 2 = k and 6 = r. The next step is to put these consonants together. So 16578 becomes s, r, d, l, p etc learn here.

1. Start Local. First try changing your mindset. The purpose of travel is to see new things and experience new cultures. Many people think that in order to see things they've never seen before they need to travel far afield but that's not true. 
2. Accommodation. Think outside the box. Cheap sleeps include camping and house swapping.
3. Food. Who needs fancy restaurants? Take a couple of plastic plates, bowls and beakers with you and buy a picnic knife. Get food locally.
4. Sight-Seeing. Some of the best things have no entry charge and there are plenty of lesser known attractions which may be free or low cost etc
5. Relax. This is my top tip. Too often a vacation or travel becomes a check list of things to do. Promise yourself that you'll stop trying to tick things off just for the sake of it.

1. Pay with cash. When you pay with cold hard cash, you'll be more conscious of your spending. 
2. Leave your wallet. It's too easy for me to go into a zombie-like state and start buying.
3. Realize what is important. What do you really value in life? When you're looking at that new phone, computer or car, do you really need it?
4. Acknowledge the urge. The only time you can get caught up in the urge to consume is when you're unaware of its influence over you.
5. Explore the deeper meaning. Why do we consume? What are we trying to do?
6. Think strategically. If you want to buy a car, it's not just the car you're buying. It's the future fuel cost, repairs and everything else that comes with it.
7. Ask.  "Do I really need this?" and "How often am I going to use this?"

How to Find Inspiration

• blogs
• books
• magazines
• films
• people around you
• nature
• children
• art
• music
• history
• exercise
• religion
• great projects
• dreams
• social media
• photographs
• forums
• google
• success stories
• life, everywhere

How to Stay Inspired

• Work with inspired people – one of the best ways to stay inspired is to work with creative, energetic, positive people.
• Read daily – varied things, from blogs to magazines to books of all kinds.
• Get outside – nature is one of the biggest inspirations, and you'll miss it if you're inside all day.
• Talk with new people – they'll always expose you to new and interesting things, if you're open to it.
• Break out of your routine – see things from a different perspective. Take a new route home. Go to a new restaurant. Visit someplace new in your area.
• Find time for silence – it's more inspiring than you might think. Unfortunately, not enough of us do it.
• Exercise – or at least get moving. It helps the blood to circulate, and gets ideas moving around. My most inspired thoughts come during runs.

• The new ABCs are Always Be Creating. People who create will be the people who succeed and excel. If you can create, you can write your own check.
• You must get out there and create — start a blog, write a book, record a video, start a business, code a new application, etc. 

Here are a few ideas on how to jumpstart your creative thinking:

• Brainstorm. Think about what services/products might be needed if this turmoil continues and what services/products people will want when we recover.
• $1 million game. This is a fun one. If you absolutely positively had to make $1 million in less than 365 days, what would you do? What area would you focus on? What skills would you have to rely on? You might not start any of the businesses you think about, but it's a great way to jumpstart your creativity.
• Get partners. Get two or three friends/colleagues together for a twice-a-month meeting. Sit down with them and brainstorm. Tell them what's on your mind — what ideas you're toying with. Press each other to come up with at least three business ideas for each meeting. If you agree on one, you have your team in place. But even if you don't, this get-together will force you to think entrepreneurially inside AND outside of the group.

1. Exercise Your Anger. Take your anger out for a workout.
2. Play Out Your Anger. Channel your anger into a creative process.
3. Use Your Anger to Change the Situation. Rather than stewing in anger, examine it to find what's causing you to be angry, and then change the cause or causes.
4. Change Me, for You. Anger holds a strong conviction that we are "right". 
5. Get Intimate With Your Anger. Anger is a wake up call. It's there yelling at us, "Something's not right here. LOOK!! This needs to CHANGE!" Fearlessly step into your anger, naked without any filter, and ask it to reveal its message to you. 

1. Focus on the Present. "I try to learn from the past, but I plan for the future by focusing exclusively on the present. That's were the fun is."
2. Fail Forward. "Sometimes by losing a battle you find a new way to win the war."
3. Think Big. "As long as you're going to be thinking anyway, think big."
4. Do What You Love. "If you're interested in 'balancing' work and pleasure, stop trying to balance them. Instead make your work more pleasurable."
5. Stay Positive. "What separates the winners from the losers is how a person reacts to each new twist of fate."
6. Passion is Power. "Without passion you don't have energy; without energy you have nothing."
7. Experience is Priceless. "Experience taught me a few things. One is to listen to your gut, no matter how good something sounds on paper. The second is that you're generally better off sticking with what you know. And the third is that sometimes your best investments are the ones you don't make."

1. Don't make it personal. People are allowed to disagree with your position, just as you're allowed to disagree with others.
2. Get the facts. There could be facts you need to know about or areas you need to explore before taking action. 
3. Listen. Listening demonstrates the value of the relationships you have and that you're willing to listen and engage with others. That can speak louder than any amount of yelling.
4. Simple assertion. You have the right to be treated with respect and consideration, and coolly asserting that right is a powerful strategy.
5. Be ready to be wrong. If you're wrong, admit it. Don't hang on to your position just for the sake of wanting to be right.

1. Identify your goal. Write it down.
2. Ask yourself: What feelings do I think I am going to get from achieving this goal? Write those down next to the goal.
3. Brainstorm 10 other ways to get that feeling state. Just brainstorm—put ideas down rapidly. Don't evaluate their quality or feasibility now.
4. Ask "What can I easily do today that will get me into this feeling state?" You'll discover some new "little things" you can do in your life – right now- that will have big impact. Come up with at least 5 of these.
5. Finally, ask yourself, what are the current thoughts or beliefs that are getting in the way of me feeling that feeling state in this very moment? What new thoughts would free me to be in the feeling state I want, right now?

1. Dress sharp. Clothes can be an instant confidence booster.
2. Breathe. Focus on your breathing: first notice it, then start to consciously breathe deeper, slower, and more regular.
3. Exercise. Exercising will help release tension in the muscles and will boost your level of endorphins, which is the body's natural drug for improving your mood, including your confidence.
4. Focus on action. When you feel insecure, your thoughts will often go into a negative cycle: you start thinking negative, dramatic things, etc focus on positive and action.
5. Stop! When negative, say 'stop'. This self-command will interrupt the negative internal dialogue for a while, prevent it from spinning out of control and help you boost your confidence.
6. Think of your qualities. A lot of times, lack of confidence is a result of loosing sight of our qualities.
7. Remember positive experiences. When you think of positive things, you generate and amplify positive emotions, while at the same time combating negative ones. 

The One Deadly Sin of Habit Change?

• Not doing the habit. 
• If you don't do it, it won't become a habit. 

1. Just start.  Tell yourself all you have to do is take the 1st step.
2. Do it, no matter how small.  Do it for a few minutes at least.
3. Do it, no matter how badly. Quality doesn't matter when you're forming habits — doing it matters.
4. If you fail, don't beat yourself up – do it the next day. Let's be clear: missing one day won't kill your habit.
5. If you don't do it the next day, do it the day after. If you miss two days, don't let yourself miss a third.
6. Figure out what's stopping you. What's getting in the way?
7. Plan ahead. Think ahead and be sure to get your habit in.
8. Engineer success. Knock down the barriers and set it up so it's harder to fail than to actually do the habit. Public accountability is a good way to do that.

• The monkeys that learned fear: 
• Monkeys that don't fear snakes were introduced to some snakes while being forced to listen to loud noises. Some monkeys learned to fear but some didn't, instead saw the fear response of monkeys that fear snakes then learned to fear snakes too. 
• Conclusion: We learn to fear things when we associate them with another even. Moreover, if a child watched an adult reacting with fear to a certain situation the child will develop fear too.

• The frog that died in the boiling water: 
• When a group of frogs were thrown in boiling water they jumped and survive. However, when the same frogs were put into cold water that was slowly heated, all of them died because they didn't react.
• Conclusion: We can feel sudden changes but when the change happens over time we don't feel it until it is too late.

• The Rats that failed to swim: 
• A researcher got rats that could swim for 80 hours continuously, then frightened them by making them believe that they were stuck before throwing them in water. Many rats died after a few minutes of swimming! The rats didn't drown due to lack of ability but at some point they just gave up swimming and died. 
• Conclusion: When we feel in control we can reach our maximum potential, if we feel out of control we give up even if we have the required skills.

• The dogs that learned to be helpless: 
• Few dogs were placed in room that has a switch which turns on electric current and shock the dogs or turn it off. When the dogs were first shocked they kept jumping around until one dog pushed the switch and discovered that the electric current stopped. Dogs learned how to turn off the shock. They were split into two groups,  first remained in the same room while the second was placed in a similar one that had a faulty switch. 
• When the second group was shocked the dogs tried to push the switch but nothing happened. The second group of dogs were returned to the first room then were shocked again but this time they never tried to push the switch. The dogs learned to become helpless as a result. 
• Conclusion: No one is born helpless but we learn how to become helpless when we face certain situations that we fail to deal with.

• What you control is your mind. What we focus our attention on grows and becomes a more important part of our experience. Many – perhaps most – people tend to focus a lot on negative things. 
• Negative thinking is poison.
• To attract more positive experiences into our life – to become truly happy and successful – we need to eliminate the negative thinking. 
• Dropping negative thinking is, in a sense, very simple. Just don't do it any more.
• One of the most important and useful things to remember is that your mind is a tool. You are its master, not its servant, so you should take control.
• Be vigilant and be diligent in being aware of your thoughts. When you spot a negative thought, just drop it. Just stop thinking about it. Switch your attention to something else if you have to. 
• It is possible to be at peace, to be relaxed and happy and to enjoy every situation in life.

1. Stop and Think Before Taking on a New Commitment. First, don't be too quick to say "yes". Remember, it's OK to say no!
2. Delegate and Ask for Help Where Possible. When you do take on an extra task or piece of work, don't get too hung up on the idea of doing it all yourself. By learning to delegate, you'll accomplish more.
3. Keep Good Notes and Records. A big reason for failing to follow through is simple forgetfulness.
4. If All Else Fails ... Back Out With Grace. Finally, sometimes you can't keep all your commitments. 

• Big goals can become a double-edged sword. Big can get you off the couch, but it can also create frustration.
• To achieve of a healthy balance, try the following:

1. Think big. In order to get the motivation to enter the race
2. Act small. Get out of your head and start doing small things every day to get one step closer to reaching your goal
3. Start today. Thinking about successfully achieving a big goal is easy. Actually achieving a big goal is hard. This is why most people talk and only a few do. Start today.

1. Following the Rules. We all have this reflex to follow the rules. As we grew up, our parents, friends and teachers kept telling us to follow the rules. If you broke a rule, you were bad. Why are you accepting them? You are responsible for your life.
2. Definition of Success. What's your definition of success? Have you even thought about it? Allowing society to define your definitions can be dangerous and often leads to a broken and unfulfilled life.
3. Letting Fear Enslave You. Humans are hardwired to feel fear. If you're afraid to do something, try doing it anyway. 
4. Being Greedy. The simple point is this: don't let money or anything else get in your way. The things that truly matter in your life cannot be bought.
5. Destroying Your Body. There's delicious food all around us. At any given moment, we can eat a pizza, hamburger or even buy some candy. These foods will ultimately lead to the destruction of your body. It isn't easy. The important thing is eating healthy most of the time.
6. Having Fuzzy Goals. Without clear goals you're going nowhere. And it's not just about setting goals, it's about setting the right goals. This all comes back to your definition of success. What matters to you? 
7. Being Comfortable. When you have enough, it feels easy to just maintain what you have. By now, I think you'll know where that will lead you. Let's just start following our passion and purpose right now.

• Remember that life is fragile and can end at any moment. Remembering our own mortality can keep things in perspective.
• Stop making distinctions between people. When you start making distinctions between the value of people based on externals, there is no end to the categories you can invent, and this can be a dangerous game.
• Don't take yourself too seriously. In a sense, all life is a game. To quote the bard, 'All the world's a stage, And all the men and women merely players.'
• Consider that the true meaning of life is to give service. The external trappings may come, but if you can be of service, then you will find your center. Einstein noticed this when he wrote, 'Only a life lived for others is a life worth while.'