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This articles discuses in length what attracts women to men by using effects of physical looks in relationships, as well as what women look for in men and what men look for in women. The main point the article pushes is that looks do not affect attraction for men.
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Being Good Looking is Important For Women
- This is because it’s the one trait that the majority of men aim for when they are looking for a suitable sexual partner
- This was no different thousands of years ago than it is today. Men still aim for the good looking women.
- An average man aims for 80% looks and 20% personality/security.
Being Good Looking is Not Important For Men
- Women are the exact opposite of men. They desire 80% personality/security and 20% looks
- This should lead you to think that if looks are only 20%, they hardly matter
- As a man you need to show your personality traits much more than your looks. You could be the ugliest guy ever. But, if you have the top personality traits, you are irresistible
- A man who lets his looks dictate his confidence and self-esteem loses many manly traits. He’d first lose the obvious ones of confidence and self-esteem but he’d also lose dominance, leadership and pre-selection. Which if you’ve read the female psychology articles, are important traits to obtain.
Does a Caveman Know What he Looks Like?
- You are here today because every generation of your family, ever, has mated and had healthy children who grew up to mate themselves. Most of these generations would have been pre-mirror, or pre-technology. Meaning, they had no means to monitor their looks or even care about how they looked. So this proves that looks do not have a bearing on whether or not a female will have sex with a man
- Females are built to find attractive people who stick out, since this gives a better selection of genes. This means if you have a unique shaped face, it may be classified as ‘ugly’ by the media, but a female may find it irresistible
- Men think looks are important to women because they are important to men, like we covered earlier. Women don’t want looks
- If you think you’re ugly, accept it and move on with improving your personality, since that’s where 80% of the game is played.
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Think about that title for a second. Does a caveman know what he looks like? Answeing that qustion should lead you to think about what attracts women to men as well.
This article is all about looks and women. One of the biggest causes of low confidence and low self-esteem with men when they interact with women is their appearance.
Reading this article will enable you to block all the negative associations you may hold regarding appearance being necessary to attract women as well as learning what attracts women to men.
What Attracts Women to Men
Recently a fantastic series of articles on female psychology has been written for the site. You should give them a read over so you understand some principles I mention in this article.
- Female Psychology – An Introduction
- Female Psychology – Evolutionary Biology for Women
- Female Psychology – Attributes
- Female Psychology - Congruence
Evolutionary Biology To Your Rescue
Looks jeopardise confidence and self-esteem of men when interacting with women, especially attractive women. This article will is to alleviate you of this burden and help you understand why men feel this way.
Being Good Looking is Important For Women
Being good looking has it's purpose. This is because it’s the one trait that the majority of men aim for when looking for a suitable sexual partner.
This was no different thousands of years ago, than it is today. Men still aim for good looking women. An average man aims for 80% looks and 20% personality/security. This doesn’t mean a man won’t be attracted to a woman solely on her personality, it does happen. Statistics mealy point out that looks are by far preferred.
Being Good Looking is Not Important For Men
Women are the exact opposite of men. They desire 80% personality/security and 20% looks. What does that highlight for you? It should lead you to think that if looks are only 20%, they hardly matter.
As a man you need to show your personality traits much more than your looks. You could be the ugliest guy ever. But, if you have the top personality traits, you are irresistible.
You lose many manly traits if you let looks dictate your confidence and self-esteem. You'd first lose the obvious ones of confidence and self-esteem, but also dominance, leadership and pre-selection. Which if you’ve read the female psychology articles, are important traits to obtain and keep. Getting a keen idea to what attracts women to men now?
Does a Caveman Know What he Looks Like?
Think about that question. Especially if you’re shaking your head to most of what has been said so far. Evolutionary biology was briefly touched on earlier, now we'll go a little bit deeper.
You are here today because every generation of your family, ever, has mated and had healthy children who grew up to mate themselves. Most of these generations would have been pre-mirror, or pre-technology. Meaning, they had no means to monitor their looks or care about how they looked. This helps point out that looks do not have a bearing on whether or not a female will have sex with a man. Females are built to find people who stick out, since this gives them a better selection of genes. Meaning, if you have a unique shaped face, it may be classified as ‘ugly’ by the media, but a female may find it irresistible. That is what attracts women to men.
Men think wrongly regarding looks, they think looks are important to women simply because they are important to themselves, like we covered earlier. Women don’t desire looks.
If you think you’re ugly, accept it and move on with improving your personality, since that’s where 80% of the game is played. The aim of this article was to help you drop a few negative thoughts you had about the way you look. Do you think it has succeeded? Going deeper into this article will start to make things become confusing rather than helping. So it'll end here.
The main thing you need to realise is that the looks issue is only a psychological issue in your head. If you don’t believe you’re ugly, you’re not ugly. If you haven’t completely dropped the issue, think about this question more. Does a caveman know what he looks like? Research and read more and you will drop it completely in the future with discovering what attracts women to men.
If you enjoyed reading this article on what attracts women to men, I’d recommend you read the female psychology article series as well as related articles such as Attraction Isn’t A Choice, The World’s Best Chat-up Line and The 8 Personality Types that Naturally Attract Women.
 Craig is a 22-year-old student currently studying psychology at Bournemouth University. He runs a self improvement blog and community filled with useful advice. His main aim is to help people exceed their expectations and reach their true potential.
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Even if cave men didn't have mirrors, you can get a feeling for how attractive you are physically based on the reactions of others...
To conclude that you're only ugly because you think you're ugly is like saying you only have cancer because you think you've got cancer...
I think you are young and you will look back on this article when you are older and realise how crude and flawed your logic is...